Mom and dad were married 60 years when mom passed away in March. Dad says he won’t come to Thanksgiving with the rest of the family because it will be too painful for him. He says there are too many Thanksgiving memories and it would hurt him more to be with us than to remain alone. Is there anything we can do to help or say to change his mind? We hate to see him stay so sad, but what about our feelings? Don’t we count?
- Worried kids, Stuart
Dear Worried Kids,
Dad hasn’t abandoned you. Losing a lifetime partner leaves much pain and many voids. Holidays often exacerbate those losses with memories that dad might not yet be capable of hearing or feeling without suffering a great deal. Your best chance of helping him is to help yourselves by seeking professional guidance to teach you how. Call Hospice of Martin & St. Lucie County 772-403-4500. They offer many programs for bereavement counseling and continued support to help your dad learn to live with loss. They can also help you and your family better understand his feelings while he’s learning to enjoy his family and life again.
Judie Rappaport, President & Founder
Preferred Lifestyle Services
Trust Yourself. You Have the Knowledge, Insight,
and Power to make the right decisions for you and your parent. ©
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