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Coping When Mom Finds a New Love

Judie Rappaport
June 25, 2015

Dear Judie,

Before Mom (91) moved into Alzheimer’s assisted living, she was aggressive, undernourished, and unhappy. Now she’s gained 20 pounds and seems emotionally stable. She has a male friend. She and Tom hold hands, watch TV together, and keep each other company. I’m thrilled for her. My brother Sam is angry that Mom’s forgotten Dad only two years after his death. We’re joining Mom at her community’s Christmas dinner and I’m afraid Sam will be unpleasant. We agreed to follow your advice.

  • Kathy, Stuart


Dear Sam,

Alzheimer’s has changed Mom’s needs and realities, and destroyed her ability to understand your complex feelings. Showing your anger may cause her fear and emotional pain without changing her relationship with Tom. Call the resources below for help coping with your emotions and understanding Mom’s behavior.  Alternatively, consider skipping this event.    


Resources:  Alzheimer’s Community Care (Martin/St. Lucie-772-223-6351; Ft. Pierce- 772 466-3261); the Alzheimer’s Assn. (800-272-3900), or Alzheimer’s/Parkinson’s Assn. (Vero (772-360-4838).


Judie Rappaport, President & Founder
Preferred Lifestyle Services

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