Care Management ~ Eldercare Advocacy ~ Dementia Care

Dear Judie,

Mom (76) is going into the hospital next month and I want to be prepared for all contingencies when she goes back home. I need a list.

• Barb, Ft. Pierce

Dear Barb,

You’re right—organization is key to a successful homecoming. It’s equally important to recognize that you can’t control everything. If you can afford it, hire a professional care manager to help you handle Mom’s discharge and care needs. Alternatively, ask for an appointment to work out the details with the hospital’s Social Worker, Discharge Planner, or Patient Advocate.

Tips:

• Stay with mom when she receives discharge instructions.

• Don’t hesitate to ask questions if you’re unclear on instructions or can’t assure compliance.

• Ask Mom’s physician for additional needs/risks.  

• Stock the house with fresh food.

• Make sure mom’s home has been cleaned recently; pay close attention to towels, blankets, bed sheets and mom’s clothing.

This is a delicate area, so take care not to insult her. Ask friends and neighbors to delegate one person to call, so her phone won’t ring all day, disturbing her sleep and recovery. If mom requires home care, assume she needs you or someone else to manage the aide’s work schedule and performance. Remain flexible, expect problems, and remember, you can’t help Mom unless your pay attention to your own needs—be sure to get plenty of rest, nutritious food, and water to stay hydrated.

Judie Rappaport, President & Founder
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